What Makes You Happy?


I’m still on the search for my next What Makes You Happy interview victim… I have a couple of ideas so perhaps I can get another one in before Christmas.

Until then, here is my own personal list, in no particular order:

What makes me happy…

1.            Spending time with loved ones

2.            Traveling

3.            The Beach

4.            Laughing- the more sarcastic, the better

5.            Reading a book that makes an impact on me

6.            My animals, or any animals

7.            A good movie

8.            Massages

9.            Sleeping! (with a fan blowing on me)

10.          When others trust me

11.          Straight A’s

12.          Vanilla Latte’s or Chai Tea

13.          Being creative- with words

14.          Tulips

15.          Cheap gas!

 

I will be leaving for Maine in less than two weeks… will be there through mid-January. I will take lots of photos and post them- I promise!

Every afternoon, Sasha and I have a routine.

While I’m working, she sits on the sofa in the living room and looks out the window, where she can make sure all is well with the world and still is able to maintain a visual of me at the same time.

 

Sometimes our female cat, Nemo, joins her.

 

 

 

Look at mommy!!!

……… they make me happy.

I really believe that God places people in your life for a reason. I also believe, that sometimes God puts those people there in order to substitute relationships you may not have otherwise. Its very common to hear of people missing family members, or of links not exactly made in family situations. When we stand back and survey the people who are in our lives, we find that most the time we have that person we are missing because we have found it in someone else. It may not be exactly the same thing, but its close enough.
I know God has given me a lot of special people like this.

Melissa doesn’t really represent anyone that I am missing. However, it is my belief that she was placed in my life to make everything a little more bearable. It was as if God said, “Your going to need one of the most trustworthy of friends on this journey, here is one for you.” She’s the first person I run to when I am mad and need to vent. Or when I am sad and need an emotional lift. And because we met 15 years ago, she’s also the friend that I always felt thisclose to no matter where I was. She is my best friend. The kind of friend you never have to wonder if they will be there for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
I should mention, we are the same in some ways, but complete opposites for the most part. Yeah, we have our own lingo, and we share favorite things to do, and like to gossip about the same things… and sometimes we finish each others sentences/thoughts, but for the most part, we are opposites.

Melissa is a 27 year old single mother. She has two children, ages 9 months and 2 and half. She is working towards her certification to be a massage therapist. Needless to say, she’s quite busy and I’m sure she doesn’t think about things that truly make her happy. And as close as we are, I don’t really know what makes her happy… besides cookies.

So I wanted to know…

What Makes You Happy Mel?

My children make me happy- watching them in amazement as they grow, hearing their laughter, knowing that they’re healthy and having their unconditional love.

My friends make me happy. Whether its a telephone call from across the country (Deanna) or being in their presence, my friends are an important part of my life. I only need a few fingers to count them, but they are all very dear to me.

Pampering myself always makes me happy–manis/pedis, massages, haircuts, shopping. That’s my pick-me-up.

More importantly, I’m learning that doing things for myself makes me a happier person. As wives and mothers we put ourselves last and don’t realize how much it affects us until we hit rock-bottom. At this point in my life, I’m focusing on myself again and not feeling guilty about it. We only have one life to live and I deserve to be happy.

 Are you where you thought you would be 10 years ago?

Not exactly. At 17, I probably hoped that by 27 I’d be married, maybe with a few kids. But I thought I’d “have it together” by now. I thought I’d have a career I enjoyed and be so sure of who I was. I never thought I’d be separated or even consider divorce, especially with children in the equation. I never thought I’d be alone. I never thought I’d be left with nothing. I never thought I’d have to start over. The one thing I do have after all of this are two children who get me through each day and I am grateful for that. Knowing that they need me and seeing their little faces makes me want to be a better and healthier person. 

 

Deebit: This will be my last WMYH post for a little while, until I find out who my next two victims are. Are you learning anything? I am. Don’t be afraid to comment people! I know your out there, I see you on my blog stats!

 

 

 

If you read my old blog, you would have read about my cousin Sharon and her husband Bill. I refer to Bill as my Uncle Bill, because he just seems like an Uncle Bill. Although they are technically my cousins, they are a lot closer and mean much more to me than just that. I believe that God places people in your life to make up for others that you have lost (more on this later), but my Uncle Bill and Sharon are people who have been thoughtfully placed, for that I am sure.

 

 

If you were to sit down and have a conversation with Bill, you would never predict where it would lead. He reminds me a lot of my father in this way, you can just sit down and talk about anything and you can be sure of two things: You will learn something new, and it will be entertaining.

Bill is in his mid- 50’s, and is a coffee roaster with his own business. No matter how I try to explain his passion, I can’t seem to do it justice.

The earliest memories I have of knowing Bill was when I was around 13 years of age. I would take the train from Santa Barbara to visit my cousin Sharon in San Diego, who was dating Bill at the time. They would take me to “Coffeeland” which is the warehouse where he roasts and stores his beans. I remember being in awe, looking at all the many containers of coffee beans… roasted, unroasted, french vanilla, hazelnut, Irish cream, Sumatrian, Snickerdoodle, etc. I didn’t know what it all meant at the time, and I’m sorry to say I still don’t- but it is on my list of things to do before I die… to understand the art of coffee, the way my Uncle Bill does.

If you thought that was interesting, you should hear his story. Everyone has a story you know… some people are boring with their skinned knees in their cul-de-sacs and off to college and then job stories, but not Bill. His history includes backpacking all the way to Argentina over 5 months, with $1,100 in his pocket. He also traveled through Japan, Hong Kong, Hawaii, and Alaska. Speaking of Alaska, that is where when he took the train up the Yukon Pass, he discovered that coffee was what he wanted to do while eating at a family-style restaurant halfway up the mountain.

After hearing just a tidbit of his dynamic life, don’t you want to know what makes Uncle Bill happy? The answers might surprise you.

 

What Makes You Happy Uncle Bill?

My wife- I feel happy and secure when we are together. She keeps me on the straight and narrow! It makes me happy to make her happy.
Helping others less fortunate- just to know I can make a difference, and I don’t need any recognition for it

Our tortoises- 2 boys and 1 girl, they all have unique personalities. They are very sociable and come walking over when they see us. We have raised them since they were very tiny hatchlings, they are part of our family and they teach me a lot on how be patient: slow and steady wins the race!

My coffee roastery- It’s familiar, I know where everything is and everything I need is there. I LOVE coffee and I enjoy the creative process- taking a raw product and creating something special- like a really good cup of handcrafted gourmet coffee! I’m proud to own my own business and to be a coffee roaster.

Ice cream- It’s my favorite dessert- no surprise here– my favorite flavor?? COFFEE!!

I enjoy going out for ice cream– making it an event. Mexican food- Real authentic– GOOD mexican food! My favorite? “flying saucer”- only when shared with a select few – they know who they are

 My truck- It’s a Dodge Ram Diesel 2500- It’s a solid truck and I like driving a Cummins diesel

 

 

 

 

 

WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY? :

Chad

 

About 9 years ago, I happened to instant message Chad in the process of looking for someone else, online. Now before you scoff at the possibility of anyone meeting anyone from the internet, let me first say that I have met a lot of interesting folks off of the net. The internet is a wonderful place to get in contact with people who have similar interests as you, and of course there is a safe way to do it. In fact, while going through my IVF, I did meet a few ladies in my local area who all joined up to discuss our nether region issues over lunch (as you do). I survived. No one chopped my head off or hid my body in an alley. Just sayin.

However, when it comes to Chad I must say some things about him. For nine years this guy has been of an older brother figure to me. I seek his advice when I need advice. He gives me advice when I don’t think I need any advice. He calls me short and picks on me for not having a degree. And before I was married I sought his opinion on all my dating troubles… and for each guy involved he nicknamed them so he could recall them easier… there was Cheap-Necklace-Guy, and so on.

Through the years, we always kept in contact. He loved hearing my stories and pieces of my past, and he soaked them all up like a sponge. He was sort of my Spongebob friend. SpongeChad. I think he liked it because it was so different than who he was and where he came from. We would email our troubles and analyze each others, from our marriages to our hopes and dreams. We would bicker and banter. He knows me well enough to call me D. I know him well enough to call him anything that I’d like to in the moment.

Chad is a young 42 year old. (emphasis on young- per Chad) He works as a Lieutenant Colonel in the Army (at ease people). He currently is an instructor for an officer school at Fort Leavenworth.

But you want to know the most amazing thing about the friendship between Chad and I?

In all the nine years that we have “known” each other we have lived within a few miles of each other, and even thousands of miles apart, but no matter how far or how close, we have never met in person. (though once, Neil and Chad were in the same conference room at one point.) We have never even talked on the phone. But, in all honesty I can say, that God forbid anything should happen to him- I would feel a very deep loss. Is that the strangest thing you’ve heard… today?

So that is the story of my-big-brother-pen-pal Chad.


What makes you happy Chad?

“How about an ice cold beer and playing ball with Baxter on a beautiful fall day.”

“sound of a nice solid tee shot on an early spring day”

“the smell of hot dogs and beer on a summer evening at a baseball game” Deebit: I’m sensing beer as a common theme here…“a lazy walk with my wife and the dogs”

” beautiful sunset sinking into the ocean”

“…an ice cold beer and a good football game”

“…a good joke…the people I work with (most of the time)”


When it comes to your future, what do you worry about?

What do I worry about in my future….having enough money to live comfortably and play golf…not having a legacy…no kids so what do I leave on this earth…will I have made a difference…I think I have and will but still you kind of wonder…kids are something tangible…either they do well and make you proud or they don’t but you see the result…I guess in some ways following my officers and their careers has sort of become my replacement but one day when I die they aren’t going to come and lay me to rest…

 

Since this is a time in my life that I am rediscovering what makes me happy and reevaluating all, I thought it would be interesting to see what makes other people happy and how they define it.

In the next few weeks I am going to be interviewing five different people at different stages in their lives and will be posting my results on my blog… with their permission, of course.

Some of those people you may have read about on my blog, others may be completely new. Either way, it should be interesting…

Stay tuned!